Just a quick update that tomorrow my parents and I will take a week to travel back home to North Carolina. We are all a little apprehensive (about being in a car together for that long -- we've never done a cross country road trip together) and a lot sad (about losing Dan). The past five days since finding out about Dan's death have been surreal, horrible and retrospectively the first steps towards eventual healing. I'll recount some of these experiences day-by-day when I have some time later. In the meantime, know that all of your expressions of concern, love and appreciation of Dan and our family are what keeps us going in this dark moment.
Dan demonstrating sine wave modulations in his Berkeley apartment using string and a small jig saw (see Yoni's comment to the first blog entry below), Thanksgiving 2007.
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It was not so long ago that I made the literal and metaphysical opposite journey with Dan- from NC to California. While the point of your journey is different, the value of the trip is the same- being together in a time of change. Dan and I had more than one moment of disagreement- me wanting to "take it easy" on the way out there, and Dan chomping at the bit to establish himself in a new life. At the end of the trip, however, the lasting feeling was one of connection to each other through a journey shared and a goal accomplished. It is my hope and expectation that your journey, while harder and less optimistic in nature, will provide a basis for you to move forward from this loss with the understanding that we are not alone in this journey of our days.
Dear Greg and the Lucas family,
I wanted to let you know that I'm thinking of you and your family during this journey. You all have a huge amount of love being sent your way from so many people that had the honor of knowing Dan.
I hope the memories of Dan will live forever in your hearts and those he touched.
Love you, Greg!
Whit
Dear Greg and Family,
Avi forwarded me the blog and news. I am so sorry to hear about your loss and just wanted you to know that I am thinking very deeply about you all.
Greg, I know we don't always talk so much, but I hope time hasn't changed that you know if you need anything at all I am here for you- someone to talk with, sit with, whatever... I am here for you.
Much much love,
Lacey
gosh Greg, I am just so sorry. My heart goes out to you and your family. I just can't even imagine how hard this is, for you, for your parents. It's kind of stupid but somehow the fact that he's your younger brother makes it even worse. It is just so sad.
I think it is a testament to your family, to his upbringing, that he tried so hard to find his way in life, that he fought for a place, for an identity, even though inside the achievements probably didn't register for him as good feelings or a sense of self worth. He knew what he needed to do to try to make his way through this life, and he did it anyways, and that says something. He tried. A lot of people can't ever commit to that, they are too scared to even begin. He had a foundation. And that is because of you and your family, and you can feel proud of that.
I just know that he would want all of you to know how much he loved you, and that he didn't want you to hurt - he would have wanted you to know that he did the best he could with the cards he had in his hand. I wish him peace in his journey to the light, and I wish you all peace in your journey to accept this, and find a way to move on, to comfort each other, and to process this together.
My thoughts are with you, and please know that if there is anything at all that I can do all you have to do is ask. much love always, Kelly W
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